1) The secret to winning at the dating game is knowing what you want and what the other player wants from the game.

Men want to be admired and respected.

Women want to be cherished and adored. It makes them feel safe.

Good relationships are the result of giving the players what they want.

2) Follow the appropriate recipe to get a prince or to get a swan princess. They really work. And always be authentic.

3) The strategy that works is: Know the rules and play by them.

Stay focused on the goal of a relationship. Regardless how many frogs or ducklings you have to go out with, when you stay focused on having a wonderful relationship, you will get your prince or princess.

Know each other's bottom line expectations. Men want admiration and respect. Women want to be cherished and adored.

Give the players what they want. Give it willingly. The law of supply and demand works. That's why it's a law. Gals, you will be in great demand when you keep making men right by admiring and respecting everything they do. And, there will be a huge supply of dates wanting you and only you.

Men troll. They look for and find women. Women attract. Women magnetize men to them and are found by them.

Guys here's a clue about women. We're suckers. We're really easy, much more accepting than you think. Just be authentic, cherish us, and keep trying to make us happy. As long as you put out a "genuine" effort and keep trying, you will win with us. We in turn will continue to make you right and appreciate your efforts. In the end, both people are happy.

Be authentic in your giving. Especially today, you have no idea how attractive being real, honest, and vulnerable are. The old saying "It's better to give than receive" is true, but actually, what happens in the end, you wind up receiving more than you give.

Shari, a relationship & life coach and columnist for 10 years, provides practical advice for dating, relating, and mating. She offers immediate answers to your dating problems, one-on-one coaching, and will even write a personal ad for you.

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