Singles Relationship Advices (Part 3)

Stress Reduction and techniques that work

Being single can be very stressful at times. Even people with the best attitudes I've spoken with have confessed moments of terrible isolation, jealousy, depression etc. Here are a few ideas to implement each day before the stress builds up.

Remember, it is much easier to nip something in the bud then to deal with stress after it flowers into physical symptoms or a bad mood. When you can "catch" the negative moment beginning you have a great shot at stopping it from taking you down. I've found these helpful for myself as well as my clients:

1) If you feel a certain "mood" beginning (i.e. depression, anger, discouragement) try to do something physical such as go running, swim, or even clean. It's good to do something that will tune up your nervous and glandular system.

2) There are two breathing exercises from yoga that are very helpful to cultivate a neutral mind. One is called "Alternate nostril breathing" and the other is called "Breath of Fire". You can learn these from a yoga class or video or feel free to e-mail me.

3) Identify and write down the mental tape loops that you finding yourself repeating. By knowing what these are you can watch it instead of take it as your own identity. The more you "see" the dramas the less you react from within them.

4) Keep a notebook of inspiring anecdotes, quotes and tips. This helps to boost one's spirit and also to feel connected with others that have dealt with similar feelings.

Special Thanks -------------------- Debra Cohen, LCSW

Make Eye Contact

Always look people in the eye when you are talking to them. It shows you are paying attention to them and interested in what they have to say. Have you ever been talking to someone and felt them looking over your shoulder? It is rude and makes the person talking feel like they aren't important.

When you are talking to someone that should be your main focus, not what is going on around you and what you might be missing. Focus in on the person and what they are saying. They will know if you aren't listening which will irritate them. If you are distracted then the best thing to do is exit the conversation politely.

by author Penelope Frohart "the Book of Fabulous Questions". Great conversation starters about love, sex and other personal stuff.

Do you ever feel like you're talking to a brick wall?

Do you ever feel like you're talking to a brick wall? We've all been there! One key to having great conversations is becoming a good listener. If you really listen to what the person is saying while they are talking, it will make them feel more comfortable and they will feel you really have an interest in what they are saying which in turn will help you develop a good rapport with the person allowing for easy flowing and great conversations in the future.